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Female Orgasm During Intercourse

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  • About a third have never had an orgasm from intercourse alone.
  • A bit less than a third have done so a few times.

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  • Only eighteen percent find orgasm from intercourse alone to be the norm (happens at least 60% of the time).
  • The incident of orgasm from intercourse alone peaked from age 35-44, then declined sharply with age.

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  • Adding some form of clitoral stimulation to intercourse changes things significantly – Only 11% of women have never climaxed this way.
  • We failed to ask if women had tried this, so some of the no’s may be for that reason.

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  • A third are able to climax this way more than 90% of the time. This is 3.8 times the number of women able to climax from intercourse alone.
  • Half of women find orgasm common (at least 60% of the time) when clitoral stimulation is added to intercourse.
  • Age did not have a big effect on this. Those who climaxed this way at least 60% of the time varied by less than 2% across all ages.

Comments:

  • In the last 5 years I have had many vaginal orgasms. Probably 50% of the time. I believe a major reason is the closer relationship we now enjoy.
  • I climax almost all the time with penis in vagina because husband knows how to thrust and to stimulate my clit and bring me to orgasm. There are a few time when he has to reach down and stimulate my clit with his hand while he is thrusting to bring me to orgasm. So if the husband is aligned correctly and thrusts in the right way he can bring me to climax almost all the time… I am not sure what you meant by no clitoral stimulation during intercourse because if intercourse is done man on top or woman on top there is stimulation to the clit all the time. I come very easy when clit is stimulated by his hand or a realistic sex toy. Sometimes my husband says he wishes that when playing with my lips and during foreplay I did not come so quickly…That is just normal for and playing with me to orgasm very fast.
  • My first vaginal orgasm was on our wedding night and since then, it has been a regular thing. I do find it more difficult to orgasm when using condoms however. They key to orgasming during intercourse for me is foreplay and lots of lube – OS on me is always a perfect foreplay activity for this.
  • It’s easier to have that type if orgasm with hand stimulation.
  • Been married before, rarely had non-stimulated orgasm. With my new fella, it’s almost every time. Once in a while he just can’t last long enough for me, but usually I go rather quickly and multiple times. Our sex life is amazing, like every other aspect of our relationship. It’s about finding the right match.
  • Due to vaginal stenosis caused by cancer treatment, I am unable to have penetrative intercourse of any kind. This seriously impacts the sexual relationship with my husband.
  • Vaginal orgasm might be possible if we weren’t dealing with premature ejaculation.
  • I don’t have orgasm with my husband. I don’t know why. That it is ok as long as we are enjoying one another and I do enjoy my husband.
  • We don’t have intercourse with added clitoral stimulation.
  • It really depends on what my body wants … Sometimes I’m able to orgasm very quickly with intercourse, sometimes I need oral, and other times only my husband’s fingers will do the job. (he’s a violinist ;] )
  • IF clitoral stimulation is added, I orgasm every time. We’re in a rut of quickies at the moment and we don’t spend time on me every time right now. Not always the case but….
  • I have only orgasmed vaginally and always with intercourse. Never manually by myself, with his hand, nor orally.
  • I only orgasm from clitoral stimulation
  • No intercourse in two years
  • As long as I get my mind into it and focus on what’s happening I can climax with my hubby. It has taken a long time to get there but is worth it.
  • Orgasm with only intercourse is physical difficult. Women are designed with most of our nerves in the clitoral area. I hope this survey helps women to achieve a more satisfying sex life with their husbands.
  • We have not had sex in the last 6 months.
  • Married almost 50 years, almost 70 years old, we often utilize “other means” to reach orgasm. But we’re still having what we like to call “B1E’s” (“best one ever”)
  • I used to orgasm from intercourse every time. Then, nerve damage from a C-section and MS have made orgasm much more difficult. Not, however, impossible. We just had to get more creative(and not be afraid of using a vib)
  • Clitoral stimulation is almost always too intense for me to enjoy. We are working to bring that sensitivity down somewhat to enable us to enjoy a wider variety in the bedroom. For the record, I have multiple orgasms nearly every time we have intercourse because my husband knows how to play a symphony on my G spot.
  • There’s an artist who is working to bring insight to how a woman really has an orgasm. Here’s the link :http://www.sophiawallace.com/. It is called “Cliteracy.” [Some mild nudity]
  • It’s a very hormonal thing – I usually orgasm during intercourse (with no added stimulation) in the day or so before my period starts and usually when my period cramps have already started.
  • I have my Os during intercourse from my g spot
  • I generally have internal vaginal g-spot orgasms; it’s very rare for me to have a clitoral orgasm.
  • Husbands porn use has given him a skewed view of sex. 🙁
  • Would love to hear other women’s responses. I could orgasm with just intercourse when I was younger but I have not been able to do that in very many years. I would think I would get better at knowing my body as I get older and that that type of orgasm would become easier to achieve, but that is not the case. Depressing!
  • I orgasm from being in love, very quickly, from “one touch only”. A clitoral touch of course. Clitoris is the female sexual organ. There is absolutely no need to penetrate our bodies every single time or even the most times. If a woman wants it, it might be her inner wish to become pregnant now. Heterosexual tribardie is a wonderful thing for couples who are waiting for the next time a pregnancy is wanted. Oxytocin will bond them nevertheless. Even more, because the woman’s needs are respected equally and she can orgasm not only once but many times…
  • I don’t know if I’ve ever had a true organism after talking to friends and hearing their descriptions. I have little releases, not a big WOW.
  • We find positions that stimulate my clitoris during sex. He orgasms every time. I don’t orgasm every time and that’s fine too. If we use added clitoral stimulation then I orgasm most times.
  • We found a small battery operated bullet helps me reach orgasm during intercourse, otherwise I cannot quite get there, although sometimes I’m close. I’ve only climaxed one time during intercourse without additional stimulation.
  • I’m very blessed… It’s easy for me to orgasm just about 100% of the time in any way my husband desires to make it happen — during intercourse just by penetration, or with added stimulation, or orally, or by hand. I have not ever had the pleasure of multiple orgasms though — need to keep working on that one!
  • I have never had an orgasm during sex. I orgasm during the clitoral stimulation of foreplay or sometimes after play where he finishes me off if I didn’t make it during foreplay.. Actual penetration and intercourse is his turn. The closeness of being held during intercourse feels nice…but its not what does it for me.
  • I answered “never” on #4 and #6 because I haven’t had sex in over 6 months. My husband has forced me to be in a predominantly sexless marriage. It’s about once every 9 months if I’m lucky. I orgasm easily so you’d think he’d like the fact that he can “take me there” but I guess he takes more pleasure in denying me and being disobedient to God.
  • Maybe my husband and I have just been extremely blessed when it comes to sex and intimacy, but think there are some important factors involved also! First, my husband has always put my needs before his, making sure I was ready to climax and since that was stimulating to him, we would always be ready at the same time! We have been married for 36 years, have four kids and six grandkids ~ I’ve had a hysterectomy and been through menopause! Still going strong!!
  • For me to have an orgasm with no clitoral stimulation requires serious foreplay and the right position, usually something from the back or me lying on my side w/the top leg pulled up. If I’ve already had a clitoral orgasm, I can vaginally orgasm from any position from then on.
  • I am more likely to have an orgasm during intercourse if I’ve already had at least one through other means.
  • In our 20 years, I can count on one hand the times there has been orgasm through intercourse only (with no additional stimulation). I have felt very close to orgasm with just intercourse many many times, but by the time it feels that good for me, it’s over and he finishes.
  • I climax very easily!
  • This was quite seldom until only a few weeks ago when I began HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy). I have the Testosterone pellet and ever since I have orgasmed from intercourse alone almost every time we’ve made love, which has increases from about once per week to 4-5 times per week. Amazing.
  • The only way I orgasm is by oral. Sadly.
  • I believe the clitoris is easily stimulated by intercourse at this point in my life. I used to need more, but foreplay plays a big part as well. Even if I am the one giving him foreplay.
  • Usually, for me, I have to have both g-spot/vaginal stimulation along with clitoral stimulation at the same time.
  • Have only had an orgasm once during intercourse in 30 years of marriage – it was about 3 months ago. It must have been the position we were in – him sitting on the couch with me straddling him on top. We haven’t been able to do it again.
  • These are tricky questions for me because vaginal and clitoral orgasms are two COMPLETELY different sensations. My vaginal orgasms are much ‘deeper’ and not nearly as intense.. It’s hard to be sure they are really even orgasms. There are certain positions that we use in lovemaking that lead to the AMAZING feeling that I am assuming are orgasms. Typically with my husband standing up beside the bed.. with me in either a doggy position, or lying on my back with my rear end just off the edge of the bed and hubby holding my legs. Harder is usually better in these cases. I can have this type of ‘orgasm’ (if that’s what it is) without ANY clitoral stimulation or foreplay.. because they are completely separate for me. Not sure if that makes sense..
  • I’ve had a vaginal, not clitoral, orgasm with finger and tongue stimulation. Very rarely.
  • Position is key. And tuning in to your body and letting your guard down. I think this is achievable with an extreme connection and a commitment to get there from both spouses.
  • I like missionary positions just because of the stimulation. My husband likes many other positions that don’t bring me to orgasm and he’s one of those guys that won’t finish the act for me after he’s had his way. =(
  • Menopause sucks…was never like this always had orgasm all the time…now crap
  • I can orgasm either way during intercourse every time but I prefer it with stimulation! Either way, I think of his body and how it feels and I orgasm within a few minutes.
  • G spot Orgasm normally.
  • I have noticed hair (or lack thereof) has a lot to do with it. If he has shaved, it’s a LOT harder and takes a LOT longer than when he has hair
  • Wish I could! I would love the experience of not having to work so hard to climax.
  • If there is some magic solution to the above, please do let us know!
  • I would like to have an orgasm with intercourse more often, but it has never been easy for us. I sometimes feel like my husband is not very interested in pursuing it, but I think it’s because he wants to make sure I do have an orgasm, and direct clitoral stimulation is a sure bet.
  • It depends on mood and desire. And length of time having intercourse. If I mentally into love making I can or gas every time multiple times
  • I have never achieved an orgasm. I don’t know what it is or even if I want it… After 13 years of marriage and sex, All I have ever wanted is to get it over with and get him to go to sleep. He wants me to “try” to reach an orgasm but I don’t see the point. I’ve tried lubes and a vibrator but feel nothing
  • I can only organ if I am on top
  • My patient and loving husband always makes sure I’m taken care of, even if he needs to continue to “work” on me after actual intercourse!
  • Intercourse is almost a given when we try for me to orgasm. Oral has proven quite difficult.
  • DH is unable to bring me to orgasm in any method other than the missionary position in intercourse. Albeit, we haven’t been incredibly adventurous in bed, but it’s a near sure thing for me that way. Clitoral stimulation done by him is never a turn on.
  • I need my clitoris to be pressed up against my husband with him inside me in order for me to climax.
  • If my husband would include clitoral stimulation every time, I’d have one every time
  • I only had one particular man that could make me orgasm. Unfortunately I didn’t marry him.
  • I orgasm during masturbation but not sex at all
  • It’s frustrating for my husband that I need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm during intercourse. Makes him feel inadequate. But really that’s just how my body responds. He’s not open to using toys and uninterested in learning how my body responds during any sexual activity. Which, leaves me not only unsatisfied sexually but feeling shameful that I should be able to orgasm how and when he wants me to. Sex becomes this time where we are both stressed and concentrated on making the other reach this point quickly that we’ve missed the gift of sexual intimacy.
  • Ever since my caesarean section 4 years ago, I cannot orgasm without using a vibrator. CS can mess up feeling ‘down there’ and numb everything so feeling is almost nil.
  • If he could learn to last a while longer (not that he is quick because he can go several minutes) there have been times I thought I might reach orgasm from intercourse. However, I think it is worth mentioning that I AM satisfied with my sexual relationship with my husband.
  • The couple of times I did have a vaginal orgasm during PIV with no added clitoral stimulation, the orgasm wasn’t as strong as with clitoral stimulation. I wish I could O easily and through PIV. I have a friend who can and she believes it is how God designed it to be and any outside of PIV clitoral stimulation (manual or oral sex) is wrong. I don’t agree with her, but I think it would be WONDERFUL if I could O during PIV alone. Then again, maybe it is because my husband refuses to manually or orally stimulate me. I have to masturbate during PIV.
  • Since my husband has health issues we often use toys so I can orgasm.
  • Very rarely am I able to orgasm unless my husband is performing oral on me.
  • Nipple stimulation is becoming more a part of my overall orgasm experience.
  • Any time you add the stimulation it is a magic moment. Orgasm is reached about 100% of the time
  • I have an orgasm every single time my husband and I have sex. He will not finish until he has helped me reach orgasm. That being said, after 15 years of only having sex with each other, he knows my body very, very well and he knows exactly what to do whether it’s through intercourse or with his hands or mouth, he knows exactly how to make me orgasm, and he can make me achieve orgasm very very quickly.
  • I’ve spent most of my married life pregnant and nursing so I am not sure if that has affected my libido enough to prevent me from being able to climax without extra stimulation. I have found myself much more easily aroused now that I’m no longer pregnant and hope to experiment more.
  • I don’t orgasm and I try not to make a big deal out of it. As long as I’m married, I’m sure it’ll happen at some point; right now sex is plenty.
  • No intercourse in 2+ years
  • Added stimulation over-sensitizes me so I’ve never enjoyed it. I can orgasm every time I want to with intercourse alone.
  • Positioning is key – I cannot climax without some sort of friction, but added stimulation (rubbing, toys) isn’t necessarily needed.
  • It depends on how long he’s been gone and/or how much sweet talking he does during the day.
  • I only orgasm about 25% of the time we have sex.
  • I don’t need clitoral stimulation. I orgasm easily and generally have multiple orgasms from intercourse alone. My clitoris is generally too sensitive to be stimulated, so I prefer intercourse and G Spot stimulation.
  • With the right timing, rhythm, stimulation, spot, one can reach O with vaginal intercourse. I usually have it after a long time of no contact. But I don’t get it often. So when my husband wants to make sure I get my O, he stimulates my clit. Orgasm through vaginal intercourse though is better for me 🙂
  • I do not experience external clitoral orgasms; I only have internal G-spot orgasms.
  • Orgasm easily and multiple with oral clitoral or husband manual clitoral.
  • A lot of times I can orgasm if I know my husband is too. He is the quiet one so I don’t always know when he is finishing. If he warns me he is almost done that helps me to orgasm at the same time as him. And that is the best feeling ever!!
  • Husbands health and erectile issues have decreased the frequency and quality of intercourse, we use a lot of oral and manual techniques.

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