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Showering together?

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  • Men are much more into showering together than women, but only 9% of women are totally opposed.
  • Other answers included “only after sex” and “only to have sex in the shower”. Several men and women said they want to, their spouse does not.
  • Female unwillingness rose with age, from 0% for those under 20 to 17% for those 55 or over.
  • Male unwillingness was less than 1% for all but the 55 and over group, where it was 7%.
  • For women “Yes, any time” was lowest between 35 and 54.

 

Women’s Comments:

  • I like to shower with my husband because it gives us some spare time together. It's not just about being physically intimate but can be a good time just to be together without other interruptions.
  • I do like to soak in the tub together - but never a shower
  • I would but our shower is too small.
  • It's a great, intimate thing to do, even if sex isn't involved, but sometimes he or I just want to be alone with our thoughts in the shower, especially me. I am home with children all day, so it is nice to just have some quiet peace to myself.
  • I think there is nothing wrong with showering with my spouse
  • We have a harder time now cause our shower is too small! Brings us closer together...
  • I love the water and would love to do this. This is my 2nd marriage and not something we have done. I've said I would like to, but he never comes in when I'm in there. We have been married almost 7 months and I am definitely the higher drive spouse.
  • We've not been able to make shower sex work for us but it has made great foreplay.
  • We bought a house and the shower is super tiny. It is way less enjoyable now. We do bathe at the same time and hang out even though we aren't in the shower together.
  • Best time to give him oral sex which I happen to love.
  • I love to shower with him, but he does not like to shower with me because I like the water HOT and he likes it on the cooler side.
  • Looking to remodel the master bath very soon ;-)
  • We used to do it all the time either as a precursor to sex or just to hang out and spend even more time together (oh to be newlyweds again). Now with three young kids in the house, it's just about impossible.
  • If our shower was bigger, it would happen more often.
  • Often when I'm on my period, we'll have sex in the shower.
  • We used to take showers and baths together but stopped quite a few years ago. I started asking him several months ago if he wanted to take a bath with me but all he would say was no. I finally asked him why and he said because you're just sitting in dirty water. Soon after I found out he was watching porn.
  • We disagree on water temps which makes it difficult
  • Personally I would love to shower with my spouse but he will not. No clue as to why!
  • Height difference does make things awkward!
  • My husband loved it. This survey actually reminded me of the fun we use to have doing crazy things like this.
  • Difficult to do with 2 young children.
  • Angle hard to have sex, but we can at least start in there, sometimes to finish , sometimes not.
  • There are a lot of grooming things I do in the shower that I would prefer to do alone. Besides, our shower is small. But if we were on vacation somewhere with a big, luxurious spa-like shower, I would certainly consider hopping in there together.
  • My husband doesnt really like it because only one of us can stand under the stream at a time. I don't mind that so sometimes I get in with him towards the end of his shower just because I like the closeness.
  • We used to live in this place that had a large shower stall that had enough room for 2 people and we showered together quite often. But my hubby doesn't like to shower together in the regular tub/shower because it gets too cold and crowded for him. I do love showering together, but I don't want my hubby to be cold or uncomfortable....
  • love it
  • Showering is a great time to be silly or treat each other with a back scrub or washing each other. Sometimes the only place to chat without teen ears listening in
  • We shower together all the time. Both for just everyday showers and for "fun" showers. It's good couple time and it's good for our kids to know Mom and Dad still have that closeness.
  • We like to shower together, but the shower in our apartment is really small, so we only do it from time to time and it almost never leads to sex. We are more likely to shower together after sex than before.
  • Depends.. sometimes my showers are 'personal, me-time' and I dont wish to be bothered. But I honestly wouldn't mind showering together more often than we do. I typically like to wash and shave first and then have him join me so I can wash him. ;)
  • We like different water temperatures and if it is chilly, one of us is standing outside the spray shivering. But soaping up is always glorious.
  • We also take baths together although it's a little difficult as one of us ends up with a tap in the back or half our body out of the water. We are looking at getting an extra large double ended bath when we remodel in a few years time.
  • Showers aren't big enough or enough hot water. One of us is always freezing or cramped.
  • Showers together are great in theory, but in practice, someone ends up cold with soap in their eye lol. My husband and I occasionally shower together and if we had a larger shower we would more often. In the ideal setting showers together can be great.
  • Love to also take baths together. It's very intimate to wash and care for each other. Love the bonding time.
  • My husband and I shower together several times a week.
  • We shower together on a daily basis. It's part of our time together.
  • We almost always showered together when we first married, but now I shower before bed and he showers in the morning before work. It's more of a treat to look forward to now. :-)
  • If we had a bigger shower it would be nightly, I’ll take any alone time together such as showering, grocery shopping, sitting holding hands at the kids ball games and of course date night. But make the most out of the little things.
  • It's great time to reconnect have fun, talk, and not be interrupted cause the kids find it gross lol

 

Men’s Comments:

  • We don't do it often, but when we do it's fun!
  • We need two shower heads. The old 'who is hogging all the water' issue always comes into play. But a soapy rub down is always a good thing...
  • Unfortunately it rarely happens....
  • Doesn’t happen very often though as my wife doesn’t like it.
  • http://www.nickmom.com/more-lols/pros-and-cons-of-showering-with-husband/ This is worth a chuckle.
  • Showers end up being good conversation time for me and my wife
  • We don't do it as often since we've got kids. We use to do it sometimes when trying to save time or hot water, or sometimes just because> I've always been a big fan.
  • It’s nice to shower together, but we rarely do so these days, mainly because our showers/ baths are more "me" time and we tend to bathe / shower at different times of the day.
  • Efficiency! Saves time and water. Plus, we get to be naked together in a confined space!
  • Wish I could.
  • Wish it would happen more
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  • We shower together at least 6 days a week. When she used to shut me out, it was a, nonsexual, way for me to be naked with my wife. Now, even she sees it as a valuable bonding time that takes no more time to be part of our daily morning routines.
  • Although I like to do it, we never do because she doesn't like it; ever.
  • I love showering with wifey. She's got an awesome body and love to look at her and love to soap up and run my hands over her naked skin. Only drawback is lubrication during penetration. Any good suggestions from readers for something that works well and doesn’t wash off? Thanks!
  • We don't get to do so very often with young children in the house, but it was something we enjoy, albeit seldom.
  • I would love to shower with my wife. She, however, has not welcomed this since about year 5 of our nearly 24 year marriage.
  • Always shower together. Very few days we don’t.
  • We shower together 2 to 4 times per week.
  • 5We never do. She does not like it.
  • DW always views showers in a utilitarian way. Get in, get out, get on with life. This is likely because she is a mom of 3 little boys and rarely has any luxury time. I, however, find the shower to be mentally refreshing, too. So showering together has been something we've worked on over the years - for me to not put so much emphasis on it and for her to see the fun in it.
  • ...But our shower is super small, so it doesn't happen as often as I would like. Rare to minimal!! Time for an upgrade in the bathroom, I say :)
  • We would likely shower together more if we had a bigger shower stall in the house. When we stay at hotels or B&B's with large showers, we shower together every time.
  • There is nothing better.....
  • I enjoy being in the shower with my wife anytime, but usually she only allows it if we are about to have sex. Occasionally, she'll allow it as an alternative to sex, if we don't have time, or she's not in the mood.
  • It can be a nice prelude to sex, or just an everyday thing where I get spend time with my beautiful wife is almost 25 years and talk. Seeing her lovely fit body without clothing isn't too bad either :)
  • Started on our honeymoon, and haven't stopped yet.
  • Used to be one of my favorite ways to connect with my spouse. Since having children it no longer happens.
  • We have two shower heads in Master shower!!
  • Rarely is showering together business only! Although wife has large fear of our young kids walking in.
  • But we don't because she prefers showers that I find uncomfortably hot.
  • Have showered together our whole married life. However, it does not lead to any sexual activity.
  • Like to? Of course! But that doesn't mean it ever happens...
  • Sucks with a small hot water tank.
  • Wife has never agreed to do it
  • We shower together out of necessity some times because we're both up and getting ready for work at the same time. That being said we love showering together even though it almost never leads to immediate sex. So much so that when we bought our new house the master bath has a big dual headed shower :)
  • Sex in the shower isn’t nearly as good as in bed.
  • I love to shower with my spouse but she is not as keen on it as me - probably because she is worried that it might develop into having sex, or even that there might be some sex play in the shower that would slow her down in getting ready. When we do shower together, with no sex play, it is the same as any other time together without sex play (like roommates).
  • I enjoy showering together but most if the time she gets annoyed that I want to touch her. If I can't touch I'm left just standing there feeling stupid and I don't want to be there.
  • I like to shower with her, but every time I try to shower with her, she is mysteriously absent. :-(
  • She does not shower with me even though I would like it if she did. She also does not like me to join her in the shower. I believe her body image issues stand in the way. We have showered together a few times in our younger days.
  • It started as a sensual thing but has become very routine. Even though routine, it still gives us a chance to touch, and sometimes give a full body naked hug. It's nice.
  • But we never do. Not my choice.
  • During the work-week I am up, showered and out of the house before she rises, but weekends and vacations we almost always make sure each other is clean.
  • We don't, though, unless on vacation. Our master bath has a one person shower, and neither one of us is as small as we were three decades ago!
  • Would like to shower together more but space and attitude do not permit it to happen.
  • Never been initiated by her. Much like our sex life.
  • Doesn't happen as often as I would like. Wife isn't interested.
  • We usually end in a full-length embrace.
  • We had our house built with a walk in shower for two, just for this purpose. We both enjoy showering together and even having sex there on occasion.
  • Love to shower with her, just wish we had a garden tub. A standard tub is a little tight for two to sit and take a relaxing bath together, at least in a comfortable way. It always fun to wash each other, and spend a little extra time lingering with a soapy washcloth in all the 'right' places!!!
  • We do this maybe once a week and sometimes includes sexual activity in the process.
  • Your survey didn't include how often. I like to shower with my spouse any time, but rarely does she want to.
  • She hates it. She hates showers, so she haves anything that makes them longer and having me in the shower croissant makes it longer.
  • Though not often an option due to lime, it is always desirable. Usually an O for me- rarely an O for her :-(.
  • My wife doesn't like to have sex in the shower though. She says it is uncomfortable.
  • It can serve as excellent foreplay if we are about to have sex. It can also be very intimate while washing each other's bodies, even if there is no sex included. I love washing her hair.
  • However, she does not like to shower with me.
  • I only like showering in a double-headed shower. It was one of those premarital ideas — like a 69 — that sounded more awesome than it actually is. One person always feels cold while the other feels rushed.
  • Never get to, though. My wife has no interest. Never has.
  • Because of wife's physical issues, we're currently unable to IC (she is actually unable to achieve orgasm in any way, at this point), so we use the shower time once or twice a week for her to "bless" me with a HJ or OS. Apart from that, our showers are always very sensual and fulfill many of wife's "touch" needs that we're currently unable to achieve with traditional sex. Best part of the day!
  • But she doesn't like the water hot and I don't like it Luke warm so taking a shower together only happens when we are in a hurry to get some place
  • My wife sometimes forgets that when we shower together, I'm hoping for more than just getting clean.
  • It often does lead to sex, but even when it does not, there is a close intimacy that we get to share.
  • Never happens
  • But only if she will let me. I usually get that rolling eye look.
  • This is one of my favorite activities, but not so much for my spouse.
  • I love it, but my wife has too many body image issues to participate, so she doesn't. I miss the old days!
  • I would love to shower together she does not like it.
  • great for foreplay, but hard to have intercourse in shower. Just great to have fun there. Wish we could do it more. Our shower is kind of small.
  • Leviticus 15:18 seems to (at least) allow this.
  • Showering together always leads to sex. Either a quickie while in the shower or jumping in bed after we get clean.
  • Best when you have a nice size shower.
  • The wife doesn't like sharing the water spray... Have considered installing two shower heads on opposite sides of the tub so she would be more amicable to showering together.
  • We shower together at least once a week.
  • My wife and I often shower together. It’s mostly about intimacy and closeness for us, and is only occasionally sexual in nature.
  • Not something I get to do often.
  • I like too, but she is not a fan. Says it doesn't keep her warm enough.
  • Our shower is just too small for both of us to be in there together!
  • I would shower with my wife at any chance but she does not like to shower together.
  • Why wouldn't I? It's fun and it is time that we can be focused on each other! It doesn't happen often enough for my tastes, but it happens at least once a month and it doesn't have to lead to sex, it can simply be a time where we help each other out and spend time together (naked!).
  • Lots of fun to be had in the shower but the wife says, "No, no, no" way too often.
  • We still shower from time to time, but having little ones makes it more challenging. Sometimes, it is for sex together in the shower and other times just for the intimacy of it.
  • ever since we first got married, we've made showering together something that we do frequently. In fact, we probably shower together more often than we do alone. Sometimes it leads to sex afterwards, or some kind of sex in the shower, but not always. In fact, that was a great point we reached in our marriage when we decided that if we showered together, there would not be any guarantee of sexual activity. It freed her up to be generous and still meant that sexual activity could (and often did) happen for both of us.
  • we have 6 kids, ages 3-13 and are pretty busy all the time. our intimate unrushed times are wonderful but need to be planned for to make the most of them. It’s ok, it's like a vacation - you plan and prepare for it. Very few people just spontaneously take a week's vacation right? So something like this would need a mommy/daddy get away weekend which doesn't happen that often. I t's OK for me as being wet, slippery and naked would mean I would instantly be in the mood and I am not sure that the shower stall would be the best place for fun....slip/fall? ;-) The shower stall just doesn't do it for me.
  • My spouse does not feel the same.
  • I would like to but it doesn't happen very often .. Maybe once every month or two.
  • This is one of my favorite way to have foreplay. It is very intimate to wash each other. To both serve them by washing their hair, back, the more enjoyable areas, etc and then are blessed by having them do the same.
  • Haven't in a long time, however. Will have to do it again soon!
  • We used to enjoy this much more before we built our current home which has a separate shower and tub. Now the shower is pretty small and it's not very functional nor sexy. But in the day.... ??
  • Our shower is small so it's not my wife's favorite thing. And sex in the shower is too "grippy". But we do like it as occasional foreplay.
  • Rarely happens due to kids, and my wife doesn't seem to enjoy.
  • Hard to have sex standing up, but would love to do it more.
  • Spouse is claustrophobic and has no interest in this activity.
  • I want to often, but we hardly ever do, wife rarely accepts. Kind of similar to sex life
  • She used to let me join her at times, but never allows it now. I miss it a lot. Her reasoning is that it is the only time she has to herself.
  • But she doesn't let me.
  • My wife is more hesitant to shower together. She sees showering as a utilitarian function, rather than as a possible intimate experience.
  • Usually leads to sex in the shower. Always fun to clean all 2000 body parts.
  • But she's a "no, never" girl, so what I like is irrelevant.
  • I always take the opportunity to admire what the Lord has blessed me with. :) You know, wife of my youth, let her breasts satisfy me and all that. Sadly, shower time is usually just for showering. :(
  • Just because I like to does not mean I get to. Probably only 2-3 times per year.
  • She doesn't much care for showering together, but she gets cold so quickly. The good news is it usually ends in sex, which then retired another shower, but who's counting?
  • We've realized it never works as well as we think it will, so rarely do it anymore. It's better on vacations with bigger showers or if we need time alone while visiting family.
  • My wife doesn't care to.
  • We get in the shower just before we go to bed. It helps her warm up when cold and its great foreplay for sex!
  • I built a 200sqft 2 person 2 head and controls shower so we could shower together. This is our good clean fun ;-)
  • It is one of our favorite hiding places from the kids.
  • Haven't done it in years.
  • showering with my wife is almost always preferred. I get to spend quality time with her alone. Teen children leave us alone & we can talk & share time. I get to see her naked! often it leads to some form of in-shower sex or foreplay prior to sex in the bedroom, but even if it doesn't it's a great time of emotional & physical intimacy shared in a tight space, close together & naked.
  • Fun way to spice things up from time to time!!
  • I love to. My wife hates it, so we don't. Why is it when one spouse wants something or wants to do something (intimate or sexual) and the other spouse doesn't, IT DOESN'T HAPPEN?
  • It rarely happens though.
  • I'm always wanting to but my wife likes her "me time" in the shower and only to shower together only when the kids are out.
  • Does not have to lead up to sex
  • Wife is not that into it.
  • Almost never happens because our shower is too small. It's fun in hotels though. :)
  • We love it but find it hard to do this in our bathtub shower at home. When we have a hotel room or another place we are staying at with a large walk-in shower, it's a very high likelihood we will shower together.
  • Usually when I initiate it.
  • This only usually happens when we're on vacation.
  • Just wish we had a BIGGER SHOWER!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • This has been limited lately due to the small size of the shower in the house we are renting.
  • This is something we use to do lots. Now it is very rare and when it does happen my wife does not want me to touch her just get clean and get out. I find as our marriage has gone on our sex life has become very predictable. As a husband I just want to feel wanted but she is happy with the norm and so showering together is no longer a sexy thing but a way to save water and time.
  • my wife never wants to
  • I love anytime spent naked with my wife but sudsing up together just adds a good level of fun. Plus that's usually where we talk about the day.
  • Sometimes it's not worth the tease depending on how our sex life has been leading up to the shower.
  • I love to take showers with my wife but she refuses.
  • My wife doesn't like taking showers but we try to take a bath together at least once a week. It's a good way to reconnect and relax. We have a 4 yr old and an 18 month old so it's hard to find time to enjoy together.
  • We haven't showered together in some time due to the size limitations of our current bathroom facilities. As we plan for buying/building a home in the near future, a multi-headed shower of sufficient size for joint bathing is definitely in mind.
  • Yes, I do as foreplay. But we just get in each other’s way if it’s an actual shower, not foreplay. But my wife never likes to. She says showers are for getting clean.

 

 

 

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