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Sex for Christmas?

227 women and 409 men have answered

Survey Closed

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  • Only 11% of women and 2% of men would choose to not have sex.
  • For women having kids at home reduced the odds of sex. Ninety one percent of those without children at home said absolutely they would have sex. For women with babies this dropped to 56%. Percentage who said absolutely then rose as kids got older.
  • For men the age of the children seemed to have little impact

 

Women’s Comments:

  • The date makes no difference It will just matter if we are in the mood and have time. Probably won't only because we will be exhausted from the holiday activities
  • Yes, please! As often as possible!
  • More is more. When I engage my husband, he feels loved, and I want him more. I'd prefer to have sex as close to daily as possible, with a little something extra for holidays and other times when I'm feeling particularly grateful for him.
  • Why not????
  • I hadn't considered it, but more than likely yes. What a great way to celebrate :)
  • As many times as we possibly can!
  • I'm too stressed out and tired around the holidays to even think about sex!
  • I have been married to my wonderful husband for 28 years. We made love under our first Christmas tree and it has become our favorite tradition. We are already talking about it for this year. Now that we're a little older than we were that first Christmas we have to air up the air mattress, the wood floor is just not as kind as it used to be on our backs...haha.
  • Sex/making love sounds like one of the best ways to celebrate Christmas in my opinion. It's giving a gift to each other in the sharing of body, mind, soul. It embodies generosity, intimacy, and warmth. Don't laugh, but what I want for Christmas from my hubby is sleeping together in the nude. His family is rather prudish about sex and nudity between husband and wife so when he is willing to sleep in the nude with me, it means a lot to me.
  • It is a great way to celebrate, and though there are family things on - there is no work to worry about. Additionally we go away on Boxing Day on a short-term mission with 16 other people, so we'd be trying to get in as much intimate time before we left.
  • Sex anytime is good.
  • To put this into context, I'm generally always up for sex. Of the two of us, my husband has the lower drive due to some medications he takes.
  • If it were up to me my spouse and I would have sex at least once a day!
  • Why wouldn't you?? I want to have sex with my husband any chance I get!! It would probably be even more special if it was at Christmas!!
  • He says absolutely. That is bonus sex! But who has time at this time of year? I will have to make some sacrifices to get this in our schedule.
  • I usually want to have sex with my husband more frequently than my husband has the energy for. We try to make time for love on Sunday afternoon, Tuesday evening, Thursday evening, and Sat. evening. It doesn't always work out perfectly but the anticipation of time together helps build our excitement.
  • I hadn't thought about it. Exhaustion is always the enemy of sex in our home. It might actually be a wonderful gift for us to give ourselves!
  • Absolutely! It's during the holidays that most people are feeling happy and generous. Why not extend that in to the bedroom, or take advantage of that in the bedroom? Go for it!!
  • It's just part of the fun and celebration. What better day to show your spouse that you love him!
  • I like to make sure we have sex on Christmas so we're both in a holly jolly mood, makes the day much better! :-)
  • I said probably because it depends on the particular day and how hectic it is, but my answer would lean more towards absolutely.
  • We strive to lovemaking everyday :-) We succeed not always, but we are very happy with this mindset and taking time for each other.
  • Of course, it depends on where we're staying...this is Christmas at his parents, so yes, we will...the bed doesn't squeak there. At my parents’ house it does, and even after 22yrs of marriage, a squeaky bed at my parents (and they aren't prudes, but still...) house is a bit of a distractor...
  • In theory yes we would. In practice we'd probably be too exhausted.
  • Too much going on with company and all, it wears me out.
  • Too bad my husband doesn't have a sex drive worth a flip! :D
  • Both days
  • We have sex as much as possible.
  • I don't feel any holidays should require sex! It should just be spontaneous :)
  • The more the merrier!
  • If it were up to me we would have sex every day of the year!
  • Being a guest at a family member's home makes for a less than ideal situation.
  • Both :-)
  • The question is not if, the question is how many times. Our wedding anniversary is the 24th - this year will be 33 years. Things are hotter now than ever.
  • And December 31st and January 1st, too!!! With lots of days in between!!! This is a time that I desire my husband even more.
  • Sex is great every day of the year. There needs to be no particular reason to have sex with my husband other than it is a good, healthy idea, and it's lots of fun.
  • We've been married 12 years and continue a tradition we started with our first Christmas as a married couple. Every year we buy "special" gifts for each other and, after all the other gift giving is finished and family have gone home, we exchange our "special" gifts in the privacy of our home and enjoy God's gift of sex with each other. It started rather tame with things like silk robes or lingerie and silk boxers but has gotten more daring with the passing years. I'll share some of our gift ideas -- others may want to start this tradition. It's a fantastic way to celebrate Christmas or any holiday! The simple lingerie idea progressed to sexy babydolls and crouchless knickers and one year, my husband got me some pearl knickers from Bracli. Through the tradition, we've accumulated an assortment of toys -- vibrators, C-rings, Ben-Wa balls, etc. One year I got him a Fleshlight because his job responsibilities had changed and he would be traveling more. We would have phone sex to release the tension when we were apart for a few days. Last year we got the Liberator wedge to make oral more comfortable for both of us and to give us a few more options for positions. This year, we're thinking about one of the new remote controlled vibrators to make date night extra special.
  • It sounds nice, but with a toddler, sometimes it just doesn't pan out.
  • I let him make that decision.
  • My husband doesn't have near the sex drive that I do so I can usually count on not having sex.
  • The evening of the 25th would be great because all the details would be done, if we weren't too tired. The 24th is usually a late night and hard to relax enough to have good sex.
  • It's family time... At that time I just gave birth...to our daughter. So unfortunately I can't just yet. But we actually have sex almost every opportunity we get. So I guess we will hug some more and giving love in some other ways....
  • Women, why turn it down? It makes your man happy. Forget what you don't like about your body. HE loves your body because it's YOUR body. It's time to give thanks right? Give thanks by letting your husband know how much you appreciate and love him! ??
  • Every day we have off together! It's the holidays, celebrate it with a bang and some bubbly!
  • Both days!!!
  • My husband constantly tells me that I am the best gift he's ever received so I am thrilled and delighted to share that gift with him on all occasions, especially Christmas. While the holidays are busy, I always make sure I let him know how I intend to celebrate Christmas night with him. He has to work on Christmas Eve so I text him some intimate messages throughout his workday. After a he gets home we shower and change clothes before we head out to his parents to exchange gifts. Each year I buy new lingerie, usually red and lacy for the season, and make sure he sees me getting dressed in it before we go to his parent's for the evening. I surprise him with a few more text messages and private picture or two while we are at his parent's house opening presents. When we arrive home from his parents, I get ready for bed but leave on my lingerie so that he can "unwrap" his Christmas "present". Even though my husband says I'm the best gift he's ever received, he always gives me plenty of oral attention and makes sure that I get a few amazing orgasms before he fills me with his gift to me.
  • I would love to, but due to his shift schedule at work, he is generally wiped out. Not to mention we have certain things to take care of after the kiddos go to bed, praying they stay there. He is rarely one to enjoy physical intimacy before falling asleep, he would rather wake up early and help me wake up. It takes two to tango, so I invite, but don't push, and willingly partake and participate when he is ready.
  • Ok, I answered Absolutely, but really, no, I don't want sex on Eve and Day. I want to make love! We have sex all the time, but we almost never make love. It's the same ol', same ol' sex his way, no foreplay, below minimum effort to give me pleasure, no reciprocation. For once, I'd like to be made love to/with. Romance, foreplay, oral....yeah, not gonna happen. I asked for it for Mother's Day and got nothing, not even our usual sex.
  • Both
  • Because...what a gift! But it won't happen. My husband has forced me into a sexless marriage.
  • I would have it every day, sometimes more than once!
  • Have a 14 year old step daughter that is with us every other weekend and will be one of those nights. I prefer sex every night, it's him I have to convince.
  • Almost always do. Sometimes it is well planned out, sometimes a little more low key. Depends on the year. :)
  • The holidays are the best time - late nights and even later mornings!
  • Both? Lol. If you're going to be sleep deprived anyway, might as well not be sex deprived.
  • We try to have sex everyday... Sometimes it's hard. We've got a 3 mo old, 2 yo, 5 yo & 6 yo, but I try very hard to make my honey my priority.
  • It's my favorite Christmas present to give to/receive from my Hubby. Married 24 years on 12/29!!
  • Sometimes the best gift is each other!
  • Every Holiday!
  • Best present EVER!
  • We have sex any chance we get!
  • Unfortunately I'm the higher drive spouse. I'm not holding my breath.
  • Both days!!!
  • It is our holiday tradition. We have 4 boys. Never have missed a CHRISTMAS Eve. Fun game and way to get hubby to wrap gifts with me- strip wrapping. Lose clothes with every wrapped gift
  • Both days

 

Men’s Comments:

  • Same as any other day. Yes if we can, if not then it shouldn't be long before we have sex again :)
  • Best Christmas present ever!
  • Sure, what a great way to start the day or during the day if there's time. We both would be for it if there's time and we're not worn out. I generally try to defer to her and not put pressure on absolutely having to have sex on the holiday. There are plenty of other days in the year, after all.
  • It never happens on the 25th because we are gone all day visiting both of our families (although I would go for it). But I would love for it to be tradition on the 24th (but that hardly ever happens, though).
  • My Wife & I are going to my mother & father-in-laws for CHRISTMAS!!!! Out of Respect we will not!!!!!!! My Wife Is A Wonderful Woman & Never Tells Me NO!!! At 62 I just Pray I can keep up with her!!!!!!!!!!! GOD Bless & Merry CHRISTMAS, Paul!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Dr. Joe.
  • Nap times are a great tradition in our home. After the early wake up to see what Santa has brought and exchange other gifts, devotional time to remember the real meaning of Christmas and a large breakfast, the kids need some rest time before we head to the in-laws. This has provided a chance for a different kind of rest in some years for my wife and I.
  • Both! Sexy Mrs clause all dressed up..... Yes please!
  • I would take Christmas Sex over presents any day, provided it was given from a willing heart, and my wife was actively engaged. A few "Holiday" extras that I don't normally get would make it even better. Wives have it pretty easy when it comes to Christmas shopping: all we want is them!!
  • Duh!
  • December 24th and/or 25th...and any other day of the year.
  • I don't expect or really even ask any more so it's about 50/50 that we have holiday sex.
  • ..PRIORITIES!!
  • I'd be thrilled to spend the entire day in bed with my wife, instead of getting even a single gift.
  • We don't observe Christmas so hopefully it has no effect on our sex life.
  • If it were up to me it would be both days. As it stands now I'll be lucky if I get a kiss and a hug on either day.
  • How can you say "no" when my wife is dressed as a sexy angel after our own hubby/wife private gift exchange!!!
  • Too cold. I'm a guy but winter and I do not get along. I just have a hard time getting in the mood in the winter and simply prefer to keep my clothes on until it gets a LOT warmer.
  • I do not need more stuff. I need my wife's respect, love, and sexual desire for me.
  • the more the better! but easier said than done with kids around...
  • Hopefully both days and certainly on New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Day. That way we could get a little to finish off the year and then start the New Year out right! Hoping then to make love every day of the year! Wow now that is a great goal for any couple!!!
  • This isn't much different from my answer on any day ??. It may be a little more adventurous or playful on these days. More like a present.
  • We both have sex as often as we want to, so take my "absolutely" with a grain of salt. Holiday sex is fun, but not necessary.
  • Either 24th or 25th, just does not happen very often on those dates.
  • We have sex both on the 24th and 25th. We are empty nesters now but that didn't matter when the kids were here.
  • The specific day isn't very important, but it would be nice to find a little time to relax and enjoy my spouse during the holiday.
  • Christmas is a challenging time for my bride. She craves affirmation and our kids cannot do enough, be available enough, or say enough. I just need to avoid any expectations of ANY kind on Christmas...
  • Under the Tree, but it's getting harder as the kids grow.
  • Sex is sex it can be done anytime, so don’t see nothing wrong here
  • We have many times and enjoyed it immensely. It is usually on Christmas Day. I'm a pastor so Christmas Eve is a busy evening between worship, family time, and finishing up things after the kids have gone to bed. Sometimes we have not and that is ok as well.
  • Have had fantasy about under the Christmas-tree sex...in the dark, with the tree's lights on, but.. never have. Maybe this is the year?
  • We will have family staying with us, but I still think it's important for us to find time...
  • We are trying near daily sex and it is good we just need to work on keeping thing spicy
  • Sex for Christmas is one of the most special gifts I get from my spouse. I particularly like Christmas Eve if I had to pick just one. Otherwise I like it in both days.
  • We do it whether holiday or not. Keeps us connected that way.
  • Both days many times all together
  • Both
  • And every other day as well :)
  • I have a wonderful wife, so this may very well happen!
  • If it was up to me we would have sex on every holiday and birthday and, yeah any day is good.
  • We probably will because we have sex almost every day.
  • If up to me, definitely. Although being separated from my spouse kinda puts a damper on things.
  • We will be at my mother in law's house during the week of Christmas. Hope me and my wife can sneak some alone time in for some adult play.
  • That would be so nice.
  • Although because we have not had sex in the last six months I doubt it will happen.
  • Highly unlikely... ??
  • Getting naked with your bride is always good!
  • My DW will refuse or not want to... As always :(
  • We have some type of sex every day. I see no reason to make Christmas or the day before any different.
  • Twice
  • Love Xmas sex and doing something special.
  • Due to sheer exhaustion from work, family, cleaning (we host 25 + for Christmas), chances might be slim...but there is always hope!!
  • But I'd basically say that for any day, not just for holiday days.
  • Busyness does not always make that possible but it is fun to ring those bells.
  • Why not?
  • Near sexless marriage
  • I use to try to make it a special occasion time. When the kids were little we would lay a blanket down and just have the tree lights on. Now with teenagers that's a little too risky for her.
  • I'd love to have sex with her at any time, but at the moment I have no idea when or if we shall do so . She won't even talk about it.
  • Special days are usually marked with Intimacy as our private celebration. (Of course I'm mindful to help minimize her stress as much as possible. And not demand or expect more than she's able to give. But she is very generous in this area and loves the shared intimacy as much as I do.)
  • My wife knows that I don't want really anything for Christmas, but some fancy fun gift sex. She also knows it can be a gift that is cashed in (planned for) later after the holiday craziness dies down. We do regular sex all year, 1-2 times per week. But about 4 times a year, the lingerie comes out, maybe a toy, maybe an act or two that rarely happens. Makes for a really fun time.
  • Would choose to have sex with my wonderful wife everyday if it were up to me.
  • Oh Yeah!
  • I would like to have sex with my wife every day, instead of about once or twice a month.
  • Ideally we'd have sex almost every anyway, holiday or not.
  • What a gift to one another, if one so felt!
  • If it was up to me, I would want to have sex every other day and sometimes more. Rather than the once every week to 10 days.
  • Yes
  • I’d have it all day for Christmas if I could
  • Sex is a celebration. Sex is an expression of intimacy. Sex calms the soul.
  • More likely Christmas eve than Christmas day
  • My wife's parents visit every year, and for some reason, even though they sleep on the other side of the house, my wife won't have sex with me when they are visiting
  • If it was up to me it would be at least every other day...
  • With 6 kids ranging from 3-14....Christmas being a "family" (translate: kids) holiday.....there really is no time for that
  • I can pick out my own shirts.
  • Under the tree after the kids go to bed on Christmas Eve is a tradition.
  • Christmas sex has never been important to my wife, sadly. No lingerie or anything has ever been bought by her for me, and it's pretty clear she doesn't want me to buy it for her.
  • What a great way to celebrate and have a little relationship refreshment during a busy time full of activity and perhaps stress. But it's not up to me.
  • Probably less so on the 24th and more so on the 25th
  • I'm always ready for sex! And if you knew my wife you'd know why. She is fantastic - loving and caring, brilliant and creative and always interested in understanding and meeting my needs. Put this is a great body and she's perfect. We've been together over 30 years and this year has been the best ever. She knows how to be seductive and tease me all day long so that I can't wait to please her, share in her orgasms and finish inside her. Our schedules and other commitments afford us the opportunity to share these wonderful experiences with each other several times a week and most certainly on special occasions like Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, New Year's Eve, New Year's Day, Ground Hog Day and any other occasion we can think of, not that we need an excuse.
  • Would love for my wife to wear lingerie but she says "that's pointless"
  • I can think of no other personal gift from my spouse that means as much!
  • If it were up to me we would have sex at the beginning and end of everyday...
  • Christmas day night. Just a great moment to focus on us after the madness of the holidays is over.
  • I only want intimacy with my bride on days that end with the letter "y". Doesn't seem like too much to ask. ??
  • Probably both.
  • If it were up to me, both. Feasibility is the main issue.
  • Any contact with each other results in a mutual arousal. We keep the affections flowing through dialogue so nothing is taken for granted.
  • Merry Christmas!!
  • Every year she asks "What do you want for Christmas?" and I respond "You!" Doesn't mean I always get what I want (pretty hectic around here) but I really don't want stuff, I want her.
  • And Boxing Day too!
  • Every day is a good day for sex
  • It’s all I want for Christmas
  • Yes to sex any day of the year!
  • 'And'. . . Definitely 'and'. . .
  • Sexless marriage for 3 years so I don't expect it.
  • Mr and Mrs Claus need some holiday loving...
  • Well, yeah. Why not?
  • Once or twice a month feels like way too little.
  • A bad day for sex because she stays up late to talk to friends and relatives and I go to bed early as usual.
  • Under the tree on Christmas eve. In bed after placing the gifts and filling the stockings. And again in the morning before rolling out for coffee!
  • Christmas night sex is always a nice addition and a free present to each other
  • I'd love to, but wife will be 8mo pregnant at that point, so it probably won't happen.

 

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