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Is masturbation sin?

283 women and 412 men have answered
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  • Gender was not a big factor. Only “Yes for singles, not always for those married” was significant, with 2½ times as many women choosing this answer.
  • The survey also allowed people to say it was okay for one gender but wrong for the other. No one said it was sin for women and okay for men, while one woman and one man said it was sin for men but okay for women.
  • Age was a big factor on this, with more staying “No, not always sin” with increasing age – see chart below. (This is the opposite of what we expected. )

Is it sin?

Age < 25

Age 25-34

Age 35-44

Age 45-54

Age > 55

No, not always sin

45%

70%

80%

85%

86%

Yes, always for anyone

29%

21%

14%

12%

7%

Yes for singles, not

always for those married.

23%

9%

4%

5%

2%

Yes for those married,

not always for singles.

3%

2%

3%

1%

5%

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  • Men were a bit more sure, but again no significant gender difference.
  • Being sure was increasingly common with age, with the exception of the 55 and over group, which was no more sure than the under 25’s.
  • Those who said masturbation is “always sin, for everyone”, were the most sure of their answer, followed by those who said, “No, not always sin.” Those who said it is sin for singles but okay for those married were the least sure.
  • Church attendance had little correlation, other than those who did not attend church being very sure.

Church, bible study, small group attendance:

  • While this is an imperfect metric, it is the most commonly used and best-known way of determining how serious people are about their faith.
  • Low attenders were more likely to say masturbation is not always sin than moderate attenders, but increasing attendance beyond that resulted in more saying it is not always sin and fewer saying it is always sin.

How many times have you masturbated in the last 30 days?

Number

Women

Men

None

36%

21%

1

14%

11%

2-3

24%

26%

4-6

14%

14%

7-10

5%

11%

11-15

3%

7%

16-20

0%

3%

21-25

1%

2%

26-30

0%

2%

31-35

1%

0%

36-40

0%

0%

> 40

0%

1%

  • Increasing frequency of masturbation correlated with saying it is not always sinful to masturbate, but the trend was not strong.
  • Those who had not masturbated in the last 30 days were the most likely to say masturbation is always sin – twice as high as respondents in general.
  • Just over half of men and women said they masturbated one to six times in the last month, while a quarter of both said two to three times.
  • Fifteen percent of men, and 5% of women masturbated more than ten times in the last month.
  • In the comments both men and women attributed frequent masturbation to separation or being the higher drive and/or refused spouse.

Female Comments:

  • It’s like anal sex; if it isn’t even mentioned in the bible I can’t automatically call it sin. That would depend on other factors like your thought life, what your spouse thinks of it, etc.
  • It feels good.
  • Before discovering online Christian marriage sites, didn’t think much about M – happened very occasionally (usually very quick if hubby was away or too busy). Now with realization that understanding myself better helps me & my marriage I am now engaging with this more as a valuable learning tool to help our joint pleasure.
  • Sex is for a couple, not for individuals!
  • I don’t only masturbate alone – my husband likes to watch me too. I also like to watch him. My husband masturbates a couple of times a week as he has a much higher drive than me and this doesn’t bother me at all.
  • I don’t believe it’s a sin as a single person unless it is feeding a porn or other unhealthy addiction. I think it is a healthy response to our bodies need for sexual release (in the absence of a spouse). In marriage I believe that it is wrong if kept a secret but there are times where I am fine with either myself or my husband masturbating alone (i.e. during our current season of pregnancy and less sex than usual). I do believe that if it hurts your spouse or they are against it or even unaware of it then it is wrong.
  • As a recently new mom, I can see how this is helpful for my husband instead of me not being able to satisfy his needs. As a masters level counseling therapist I know that conditioning the mind to just that could be dangerous. Married couples must share with each other their feelings and views about the topic with each other and not guilt each other into doing something not agreed upon.
  • There is only one reference to masturbation in the bible. Masturbation is NOT a sin. In the one reference he was punished not for his act of masturbation, but for his defiance of gods direct orders to lay with her and conceive a child. God’s wrath was from his disobedience not for the act of masturbation.
  • God created sex for union and intimacy between spouses. Masturbation is self-gratifying and devoid of relationship and nearly always linked to fantasy (and porn).
  • I believe masturbation is a sin for the fact if we find we can pleasure ourselves we could end up making our spouse feel inadequate…I believe it’s wrong in singleness as well.
  • I feel in the case of a handicap spouse it is a much better option for a sexually frustrated person than adultery.
  • During times when I have just given birth or had surgery that prevents me from having intercourse, I would rather my husband masturbate to have the sexual release he needs as a male, than for him to be tempted or frustrated during my recovery.
  • If you are masturbating you are lusting after the opposite sex which Jesus says is a sin
  • Sex is about becoming one with your spouse. Orgasms bond you together due to the chemicals that are released. Why would you want to become one with yourself and bond with yourself?
  • I think masturbating for spouse is a great way to teach what you like and it quite enjoyable to that visual husband to watch. Doing it alone in secret is a sin!!
  • I think fantasy is always a sin – it trains your brain to live in an alternate reality and it influences your real life sexual experiences.
  • It just comes down to stealing your spouse’s intimacy. If you’re not stealing their time with you, it’s not a sin.
  • My husband and I are separated by distance now, so this includes many Skype sessions of intimacy together. Your question about the number of times doesn’t specify solo. I’m certainly going solo way more than normal due to the distance. When we are together, solo only happens every once in a while, once a month or less.
  • My thoughts are if your spouse is gone for an extended amount of time, it would be okay. For singles, I would think it would save them from possibly crossing a line they shouldn’t.
  • As a couple we enjoy sex multiple times a week (3-7). He pleasures himself if it’s an off night for me. I do the same. We also masturbate with each other watching. Masturbation isn’t a sin. Lusting after someone else is a sin. Lust doesn’t mean porn, lust can be a hot woman at the mall. We also enjoy toys, bdsm and watch porn our own videos because it excites us both we aren’t wishing and lusting after porn stars. People watch regular tv and movies and lust so that argument is invalid. Married and even Christian marriage means that our sex, whatever we like between the 2 of us, is sacred.
  • I think it depends on the marriage … for instance, my husband masturbated sometimes when I was away, but then that decreased his sex drive for me. Since we realized that he has stopped. Also, I think it depends on what you’re thinking about when you do it. If you’re remembering a time with your spouse, than that’s better than watching someone else or looking at a picture of someone who is not your spouse. Also, I think it could be a symptom of a greater issue in marriage if one or the other masturbates. I used to do it more often, when my husband was uncomfortable with sex and physical intimacy (still working on that …) but I did it because he didn’t want to have sex as often as I did and I wanted release. My husband was also very uncomfortable with helping me orgasm with his hand then too, so if he orgasmed before I did, there wasn’t another way to have release. We’re working on it, and I haven’t masturbated in a while … but I guess that doesn’t mean I won’t ever do it again.
  • Masturbation in and of itself is not sin.. but it can lead to sin. I think it’s fine for a single person to relieve some sexual tension or explore their body.. or a married person who is deployed or physically separated from their spouse to occasionally masturbate if they are both in agreement. As long as there is no porn, or lust, or secrecy, or lack of self-control, or not fulfilling your spouse’s needs, etc.
  • I believe that masturbation is a sin when you are single bc it brings up desires that a meant in a marriage bed. I believe it is a sin in marriage bc that is what your spouse is for…you should have desires for your husband/wife. That’s what God create sex for, for us to enjoy each other! Not for us to pleasure ourselves bc then what can your spouse do for you that you can’t do for yourself? We are supposed to delight in each other as a married couple.
  • I just believe that God designed sex for a man and a woman who are married. Anything outside of the marriage boundaries is sin.
  • I put 0 times in the last month, but I used to at least every other week. Sometimes a few times a week. Thankfully I confessed to my husband and I have been faithful since, about 6 weeks.
  • Normally I wouldn’t masturbate so often, but I am in the late stages of pregnancy and it is much more difficult to orgasm and I’m doing for less than sexy reasons. Sometimes, though, being the HD spouse, it feels like the only way to stay sane and keep things relaxed between us. Other times, I think it’s stopping me from actually learning to communicate sexually and effectively with my husband. I want my sexuality to be healthy, but I am so unsure about this it drives me nuts. Please talk about this!
  • We made the decision not to masturbate without the other present, which is what works for our marriage. But I do not believe masturbation is always a sin in or out of marriage.
  • I don’t believe masturbation is a sin unless it takes away marital rights of the spouse. For example: If I would like to have sex but my spouse denies me because he masturbated then it’s a sin.
  • I don’t recall anything biblical stating, masturbation, is a sin. The spilling of seed was because the brother refused to impregnate his dead brother’s wife. Whether being single and doing it is wrong, I’m not sure. Would it be better to take care of the issue solo when unmarried, or sleep with other people who are not their spouse… That’s my question. And marriage, ever had deployed spouse? Months on end of being alone isn’t easy. Take care of yourself, imo. Now when together, a married couple shouldn’t unless there is a medical or work conflict. I. E. Post pregnancy, opposite shifts, surgery…
  • I have a higher sex drive than my husband. And he works shift work. Nightshift is especially brutal. We discussed it and he gave me permission to take care of things if it gets too bad
  • I don’t think it’s ever a sin.
  • My husband and I both struggled with masturbation before marriage. We both knew it was wrong, but it had become a habit and an addiction. Once we got married, we didn’t have need for it because we had each other. We helped each other through and now only enjoy sex together. Although I do not do this, I do think it would be ok to masturbate with your spouse, as long as you both have talked about it and do it together and finish off with each other, not separately. Kind of like a show as a tease for your spouse. But never separate or alone. That’s different.
  • I am the higher drive spouse. My husband had health issues and we do have sex often but still not enough for me. If I want more than he wants then it makes him feel bad and causes a riff between us. That’s not worth it to me so I just take care of it myself.
  • I think, especially in marriages, there can be an inequality in levels of desire and it’s a way to help the higher drive spouse, especially when the other spouse is aware.
  • Both my husband and myself believe that masturbation is perfectly normal and in fact, my husband encourages it (either solo or with him) as It’s a way for me to explore and understand what works for me sexually – it also forms a part of our foreplay.
  • If you are denying your spouse because you satisfy your own need then it is a sin. If you fantasize about adultery to pleasure yourself it is a sin. If you think only of your spouse I don’t think it is sinful. Moderation is also key any obsession apart from God is idolatry.
  • While I generally don’t consider it sin, I DO consider it sin if one is thinking about someone other than one’s spouse, using porn (which in and of itself is a sin), or denying their spouse sex.
  • Perhaps after sex, with the spouse present, to reach orgasm, masturbation may not be sin, so long as the spouse consents.

Male Comments:

  • I think the sin comes in when my thoughts become unfaithful. M while still having loving & pleasurable thoughts of my wife isn’t sin. (It keeps me from being a nag & having sinful thoughts when I get rejected)
  • Over the course of our marriage my wife has refused relations for months at a time. Over a year at one point. I feel like she loves me, but sex is not always important to her. When she’s in the mood, she’s in the mood for days at a time, but those times seem far and few between. When I do it, I do it for a release and to keep myself from being frustrated and angry with her about it. I’ve unfortunately accepted that this is simply the way she is and even though we’ve talked at length and I’ve expressed my frustrations, she’s not gonna change.
  • I really enjoy masturbation, as my wife’s drive is not the same as mine. I prefer sexual activity with her, but don’t want to pressure her into doing anything. Taking matters into my own hands helps prevent frustration in our relationship.
  • I have struggled with this I just try to resist till I am married to my fiancé.
  • If you’re turning to yourself instead of your wife to help you, there is a serious breakdown in communication. There are unmet expectations and needs that are going uncommunicated and all you’re doing is creating a culture of secrecy and selfishness in your marriage.
  • I’m Muslim. And masturbation is forbidden in Islam.
  • I masturbated mutually with my wife, since she’s away, we make sure we connect, and keep our bond.
  • None
  • I prefer intercourse, but wife has health issues and I need release (and don’t want to ask for it from my spouse). Maybe I should?
  • I don’t think the act itself is sin, but the lust that often goes along with it (i.e. pornography) is where it gets problematic.
  • Working with wife to increase frequency of sexual activity, which has decreased need to self-stimulate. Increased sex from once/month to once/week 5 months ago. Increasing to 2x/week now. If sex could happen 2-3/week, there would be a big drop in self-stimulation.
  • I think it’s sin if your thoughts are lustful and not toward your spouse. I think if you are away from your spouse or your spouse is unable to have sex, masturbation without porn and only thinking of your spouse is ok. I would like to see my wife pleasure herself as part of foreplay, but she feels it is sinful.
  • Before we came to God this issue was a big problem in our marriage but when God’s love took over our lives all that was changed overnight. Masturbation can be a sin under certain circumstances but I don’t believe the act itself is sinful even within a marriage, however there is very little requirement for it in a healthy, Godly relationship.
  • I’ve always been extremely passionate about this subject because of the subjective thought processes of the generally accepted church’s opinion. Let’s be clear: Lust is a sin. Coveting something that’s clearly not yours is a sin. Not coveting. Coveting something that’s not yours. Masturbation is in and of itself not a sin neither is it declares one in the Bible. But because it is impossible for some leadership to fathom being gratified by the touch of one’s self and not having to imagine it is someone else; we have incorrectly judged that if someone masturbates they are lusting as well. Such could not be farther from the truth. The incredible barrage of incorrect sexual information being passed from the pulpits across the nation perpetuates this incorrect interpretation of scripture and denigrates the divine design of the body, sex and pleasure. Just because I’m a recovering alcoholic and cannot have one drink does not free to judge someone else, who can have 2 drinks and stop, a sinner because they do what I cannot. The physical and emotional benefits of regular orgasms prove the original intent of God’s design. But if you cannot masturbate without lusting after another….it is not for you . And your problem is not lust…it’s self-control and thought management.
  • It’s not the act, but the thoughts before, during, and after that make it sin or not.
  • Not a sin if your wife makes a video for you to take with you on the road so you’re only thinking of her.
  • This is a hot topic. In my situation, sex is painful for my wife and therefore, she is not interested. There may be other reasons.
  • The bible tells us about our bodies as a tabernacle of God. There we should not do or think substances that has sinful nature. Your thoughts are as powerful as your actions. In romans 12 the bible says renew your thinking. We understand the in fight that is between the celestial and terrestrial. Your spirit want the things of heaven and your body is at war its it wants the things of the earth. The bible admonished us to resist the devil he will flee from us. Therefore the resistance should be in the mind, to safeguard the body. Amen
  • When she isn’t interested in sex, and it’s been too long, I take care of it and move on. I used to masturbate in self-condemnation but since I have found out who I am in Christ, I no longer need to feel this way. I always give her first rights to my drive.
  • Would be less if my wife were more responsive to my needs…
  • I photograph my wife and she is the star of my highlight reels… With the photos I have committed lust in my heart, but my heart is “in the right place”… She knows I love her and am attracted to her (after all these years… 23 total…) We have been together since I graduated HS (and she had a year to go) at 16 and 17… We are 40 and 41 today and our sex life is great..!
  • Not a sin to single people
  • Wife is ‘unavailable’ for sex. She is busy with work and a graduate college class, which it true, but wish she had more time for us. Only have sex with wife 1-2 times per month.
  • I travel a lot for work. Sometimes we both masturbate while talking on phone. Phone sex.
  • The fact is that the Bible just doesn’t say all that much about the subject. I do believe there are many situations in which masturbation is sinful (e.g. when used with pornography, or while desiring someone other than your spouse), but I am not certain that it always is. I do believe the best situation is for a married couple to satisfy one another’s desires. The Bible is clear that this is how sexual needs are to be fulfilled. But spouses don’t always hold up their end of the deal (for many reasons). And what about singles? Is there absolutely no outlet to sexual tension for them? Can they completely avoid all sexual thoughts? I would argue that at least for many men, it is sexual thoughts that drive him to want to marry. While masturbation may temporarily relieve sexual tension, it cannot even begin to come close to the mutual union of a husband and wife in a solid relationship.
  • I believe that sex between a husband and wife is the most important and nothing should get in the way of that. Having been married for 7 years the only times I ever masturbate are when my wife is out of town visiting her family. When she is here it is not my job to satisfy my sexuality, it’s my wife’s job. In just the same way it my job to take care of her both sexually and otherwise.
  • I honestly can’t answer #4 and wish “I don’t know” was an option. I’ve always been totally unsure of whether a sin or not – even though am Catholic and been told it is. I’ve used it to fill physical needs when wife is not available or willing for sex, and have used it for stress relief. Not as great as sex, but close second, and am somewhat ashamed/guilty/embarrassed to say that I love doing it.
  • Masturbation helps get through the long periods without sex, and helps me do so with a better attitude and less bitterness.
  • Sex with my wife is almost non-existent. We have sex 2-3 times a year. If I didn’t masturbate I am afraid I might seek satisfaction outside the marriage.
  • This depends on what you are thinking about while doing it. Also if you choose to do this instead of being with your spouse then yes it is a sin. There are many reasons that can make masturbation a sin or not a sin.
  • When it takes away from sex with spouse it is wrong. When spouse is not able to help it is ok as long as lust after someone else.
  • I’d rather not masturbate at all (I answered 2-3 in past month), but there are times (too many, I’m afraid) that my wife makes me wait beyond my ability to cope. What’s really frustrating is I can never predict when she will feel well enough/have enough energy, and it seems that every time I can’t wait any longer and give in to masturbation, that is the day she decides she’d like to get together.
  • My wife is a gate keeper and we live in a sexless marriage, on her behalf she was sexually abused
  • Always tell wife before or soon after. I try to make sure it is a shared intimacy. It used to be a way to avoid the sense of rejection in a “maybe later” response. Now, it is usually trying a new technique though sometimes for emotional self-comfort. Last few years, better communication and God’s grace have led to almost daily intimacy together in one form or another. Feel a little uncomfortable about solo for me, though being uncomfortable is not same as it being sin. (Shame that it was not clearly addressed in the Word.) On the other hand, I love it when wife solos and wish it were a regular thing! As long as I overheard her or am told later, it helps me see wife as sexual and sexy.
  • The problem I see with masturbation is that the focus is all about me, which is contrary to sex and marriage is about serving. Now, if it is done in marriage to show your mate what pleases you that may be okay. It is also very difficult to masturbate without fantasizing. Usually we fantasize about something God has not given us – which is discontent and covetous.
  • After writing a 200 word essay I came to this conclusion… I think your thoughts etc. needs to be pure. Doesn’t matter whether married or single you need to have control of your eyes and thoughts so as not to sin. Matthew 5:28 comes to mind. On top of this, especially for married couples, where are you focusing your sexual energies and are you depriving your partner of them if you are participating in solo sex? If so… then I think that is wrong and a sin. If not due to distance, hard birth, etc. then that comes down to personal choice and how you view it. Don’t do something you think is wrong.
  • Almost always sin for a man. If he is thinking about someone who is not his wife I am sure it is sin. If separated from wife and thinking about wife maybe not. Probably the same for women, but I don’t know what goes on in a woman’s mind while masturbating.
  • I’ve only been with my wife so my fantasy is with her and remembering the sex we have. She is older and very busy and we are quite opposites in many ways. I’m sure if I was a better stimulus to her need to respond I’d have more sex but it’s a work in progress.
  • I don’t think frequency of church attendance should be weighed against their spirituality either. I work random shifts throughout the week and so I’m prevented from going as often as others. So that question appears misleading to me.
  • Sometimes your wife is not in the same place, so …….
  • I believe that masturbation with Lustful thoughts is a sin, if at all possible, masturbation without is simply just masturbation.
  • I believe masturbation, when used with lust and fantasy (not directed towards ones spouse) is a sin, but I have come to realize that masturbation as an act of release can have its place (when husband and wife are apart or through mutual consent) as long as it draws them closer together and not further apart. Personally I don’t masturbate because I want to share my pleasure with my wife.
  • Sometimes it’s a safety valve release to prevent sin. It’s not better than the real thing but sometimes just necessary to free up the mind/heart/soul from lust.
  • My wife and I have sex very infrequently, once or twice a month at the most. She likes to be held and caressed though but balks when I try to be more sexual. I’m often left very frustrated. I hate it.
  • I try not to masturbate as much as I can. When my wife is sexually active with me I find it much easier to resist, but when she’s refusing I give in much more and find myself fantasizing about other women. Masturbation is not at all a substitute for making love. When I masturbate it gives a temporary release but then I immediately have a stronger desire to make love. Masturbation is a lot like going 5 days without food and then eating a small candy bar. It satisfies while you eat it, but there is no nutritional value and you immediately feel worse and you’re even more hungry than before.
  • I believe it is a sin when I am fantasizing about someone other than my wife. I also believe masturbation is a sin when I’m trying to find release apart from my wife when she is capable of having sex, (i.e. not menstruating, and/or period of illness, or spending nights apart). I believe singles can enjoy their bodies solo without fantasizing about someone else or using porn.
  • Sexless marriage
  • If you can do it without lusting after someone other than your spouse and it does not interfere with sex or intimacy then I think it is ok. I am not aware of specific reference to it in the Bible so I believe it is probably more an issue God will deal with each person individually on their faith journey. I know it helps things from not being over too quickly in our situation.
  • Lust is sin. Masturbation can easily be a by-product of and/or a factor leading to sin, but is not sinful on its own. It can, in fact, be used for good things, such as exploring personal pleasures as a means of teaching your spouse what works for you. A bigger concern would be withholding sex from your spouse to the point where they feel like they have to masturbate.
  • If you are masturbating while withholding sex from your spouse (because it’s easier, or other reasons), that is definitely sin.
  • It is not the act that is the sin. What is the context? Watching porn? Fantasizing about someone that is not your spouse?
  • I don’t believe masturbating is sin at all. Regardless if you’re single or married. I believe there are guidelines for both. There’s a lot to it that would require more than a comment on a survey.
  • My bride refuses to have sex with me so I have no other recourse to release my sexual tension, I do not use porn though.
  • Sure would be nice to have some spousal support in this matter so it wouldn’t be a cause for concern.
  • My wife and I ask “permission” almost every time before either of engages in solo masturbation. I travel for work and we both sometimes need the release of orgasm. We didn’t always do this but I think now that we do then it isn’t sinful.
  • I am 100% confident and persuaded that masturbation in and of itself is not a sin. It does NOT have to be conflated with porn or lust but some cannot seem to conceptualize of this given their past abuse of porn or lust. There are also a lot of heretical ideas in Christian culture which taint the views of a lot a lot of people. It tends to become an emotionally charged issue as well, and I understand that no matter how many reasoned arguments are presented – some people will simply not consider evaluating their long held beliefs about masturbation.
  • My opinions have been changed in the past several months, mostly by reading the articles on this website. My wife and I are starting to view masturbation in a less shameful manner than we used to, and have experimented a bit with making it an occasional part of foreplay. Beyond that, I’d probably only do it if my wife and I were separated for any extended length of time.
  • It’s okay if you’re away from your spouse and your spouse is the only one you think about.
  • The Scriptures are very explicit about who we can and cannot engage with sexually, on the other hand i can’t find where it says what we can and cannot DO, i.e. Thou shall not touch this body part to that body part. The question therefore becomes, “When I masturbate am I involving someone in my mind that is forbidden me in scripture”? When I was single there were times that I was simply trying to relieve the discomfort caused by youthful hormones without thinking of anyone else (not sinful), while there were also times that I was thinking very specifically about someone and what I wanted to do with/to them, but in this case the sin was committed before the masturbation ever began. Now that I am married there have been times when my wife was unable to engage with me or simply refused me for extended periods of time and I resorted to masturbation to relieve my needs. Again any sinfulness was because of my motivation (was I thinking lovingly of my wife and what I would be doing with her, if only she allowed, or was I frustrated/angry with her and thinking of someone else to fuel my passions/desires) not the physical activity.
  • The true sin comes into play if you are using something to “aide” you IE pornography or a pic of someone other than your spouse. Then in those terms it’s a sin.
  • Wife had back surgery. Wife also has strong long drawn out menstrual cycle…
  • It depends on what is in your mind as you are masturbating.
  • The issue is lust. The questions should be. Does it cause one to lust for someone other than their spouse? Does it cause division or bring unity in the marriage? Do husband and wife consent, or is it done in secret? Does it cause shame?
  • Only married people can, and only with thoughts focused on spouse. Anything else is adultery, lust, etc. Sex is sex; solo or not. If not with spouse is sin; mentally or physically. Suggest all single Christian people avoid it like the plague.
  • Masturbation is simply contrary to the natural purposes of sex: unifying the couple and potentially creating offspring. It’s no surprise that masturbation, while it does occur in animals, it only does when the natural state of the animal or it’s environment has been disturbed. Furthermore, masturbation rarely, if ever, occurs apart from some form of fantasizing. Fantasizing, even about one’s spouse, is a form of objectification (treating someone like an object rather than a human being created in the image and likeness of God) and is inherently contrary to love. Rather it is committing adultery in your heart. God created sex to be a gift to your spouse, but masturbation, by definition, is the opposite of this: pure selfishness.
  • I would have liked another option. It is sin if fantasy about another person not your spouse, connected to porn, for selfish reasons, done in secret. It is not sin for couple separated for work (military, temporary job separation) if spouse knows about it & not in the mood. It should never replace or interfere with marital sex. If it does, it should stop.
  • This topic has been an issue I have struggle with before I got married, though my wife is not aware that I struggle in this area and she is totally against it from precious discussion which we had. I didn’t get into it via watch any exotic picture or movie but as a result of hitching in my scrotum. Having a conviction to stop, I keep finding myself returning to it after long days of sexual rejection from my wife. There are many school of thought about it and the bible doesn’t clearly start it out. I strongly feel it’s a shady area one should keep straight path with by not doing it at all. As of today, I have chosen to keep my mind busy and occupied even when my wife doesn’t give a green light. I find that I just fall asleep immediately am in bed after a hard day’s task, rather than expecting a green light which may never come. Once during this prolonged waiting time, she woke me up late one night and beg me to have sex with her, which I did and was so glad too. But that was the only one time she did in our two years of marriage. It’s not an easy thing to wait endlessly for a partner who isn’t just ready for sex due to issues that we can’t laugh over, but his grace is sufficient. I would rather not be involve in masturbation and still make eternity. On the overall, it appears she is using sex as a weapon but she claims she is not just connected to me during this prolonged time which could last for about 2-4 weeks. I am trusting God for a turnaround …
  • When I masturbate, I think of only my bride. If I were to imagine anyone else that would be lusting after another woman which God classifies as adultery. That is also why it is sin for a single person to masturbate; they have no legitimate outlet. I only masturbate when my bride has refused for a couple weeks or more.
  • I believe that it would be sinful to masturbate if there were unresolved issues in our marriage, if I was doing it without my wife’s knowledge and if I were fantasising or using porn. I do fantasize – but only about my wife. My wife knows when I masturbate and she often offers a hand (good pun there!). We have a fantastic and active sex life but a couple of times a week my wife is worn out from work and as a high drive man, I don’t want to pressurise her.
  • Masturbation outside marriage means you aren’t being pure. And you are probably lusting as you do it. If you are married, and keeping it from your spouse, you are probably lusting and lying to your spouse.
  • There can be many reasons for masturbating. I find my wife very sexy and if we’re separated, I feel I’m allowed to fantasize about her. As long as there is honesty, it’s not out of lust for someone outside of the marriage bed, and it’s a mutually agreed on activity, then it is ok, not sin. In some ways, I feel it can be healthy, provided above criteria is met.
  • I think the question, is not the act of masturbation, but the Lust that can accompany it. In an single person’s sense, if they can masturbate without lusting then it simply becomes another pleasurable action that God gives us. In relationships such as marriage, masturbation it can be another part of an intimate relationship that bring the couple closer. Whether separated by distance for travel, or other circumstances. Masturbation especially with men can lead to doubt and distrust however, specifically if done in secret, so if done secretly I would say it becomes a sin as things should be open and honest in a marriage.
  • Even if one thinks masturbation is not always sinful (which it is), it also strikes me as wildly imprudent. In my experience it was strongly psychologically addictive – and coming to see its sinfulness (which God had forgiven for committing) was the first step on the long hard road to breaking my addiction.
  • I don’t think it’s sinful.
  • I’m A Muslim. Masturbation is forbidden in Islam. That’s why I’m saying this. I’m trying to control Me though.

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