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How Important is Position?

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  • There were some big gender splits on this one!
  • Men’s top answer, at 55%, was “Variety is important to me.” This was also one of two top answers for women, at 35%
  • 51% of men said “I have preferences, but it really doesn’t matter much.” This was the other top female answer, at 35%
  • 46% of men, but only 13% of women said they can orgasm in any position, but some are better.
  • 40% of men but only 18% of women said “Anything is good”. 26% of women and 11% of men said “I have a very few I really like”
  • Thirty-three percent of women said some positions make orgasm difficult, and 22% said some positions make orgasm impossible. Men giving these answers were 8% and 4% respectively.
  • 15% of women and one man (.25%) said “I don't orgasm during intercourse so it really doesn't matter to me.”
  • Women were more likely to say certain positions cause them pain.
      • 20% vs 7% said “Some positions leave me my body sore”
      • 22% vs 5% said “Some positions leave me my genitals sore”
  • More than a quarter of the women who left comments volunteered that face to face was important to them.

 

The graphs below show how much men and women like or dislike various positions. The left side is “Love it” while the next to last on the right is “Hate it”. The far right is for those who have little or no experience with a position.

A few findings based on these graphs:

  • Most liked positions men:
        • Cow Girl is # 1 for men – 62% love it and 27% like it a lot
        • Rear Entry is #2, with 59% loving it and 25% liking it a lot
        • Rear entry with man standing and women on bed or bent over is #3 – 44% love it while 25% like it a lot
        • Woman on top facing away was #4, with 36% of men loving it and 24% liking it a lot
        • No other position got a love it by at least 30% of the men
  • Most liked positions women:
      • Missionary is #1 for women – 48% love it and 31% like it a lot
      • Cow Girl is #2, with 34% loving it and 24% liking it a lot
      • Rear Entry is #3 – 32% love it while 16% like it a lot
      • No other position got a love it by at least 30% of the women
  • Least liked positions men:
      • No position was “hated” by even 1% of men
      • Standing, facing was disliked a lot by 3% of the men
      • Side by side, facing was disliked a lot by 2% of the men
      • Side by side, man behind was disliked a lot by 2% of the men
  • Least liked positions women:
      • Woman on Top facing away was hated by 7% and disliked a lot by 13%
      • Rear entry, woman flat on bed was hated by 6% and disliked a lot by 6%
      • Rear entry was hated by 5% and disliked a lot by 8%
  • Most tried positions:
      • 99% have tried missionary
      • 98% have tried cow girl (woman on top)
      • 94% have tried rear entry
      • No other positions had been tried by at least 85% of couples.
  • Least tried positions:
    • 56% have tried the coital alignment technique
    • 61% have tried standing, facing
    • 62% have tried seated, not facing
    • 63% have tried woman on back, man on his side at right angle
    • 69% have tried standing, man holding woman or woman seated on counter
    • All other positons has been tried by at least 75% of couples
  • Less used positions really liked by those who use them:
      • Woman on back, man standing - Of those who have tried it, 68% of the men and 54% of the women love or like it a lot.
      • Rear Entry - man standing - woman on all fours on bed or standing and bent over - Of those who have tried it, 83% of the men and 47% of the women love or like it a lot.
      • Seated facing - Of those who have tried it, 58% of the men and 54% of the women love or like it a lot.
      • Standing, man holding woman or woman seated on counter - Of those who have tried it, 57% of the men and 53% of the women love or like it a lot.
      • Woman on back, man on his side at right angle- Of those who have tried it, 50% of the men and 32% of the women love or like it a lot.

 

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Women’s Comments:

  • Do not mind variety, However variety comes at the cost of my pleasure, as I can only have PIV orgasms in two PIV positions. Usually when DH wants variety in positions we start in a position that I am able to orgasm from than after orgasm switch to his variety position of choice.
  • Thanks for the list. We should probably try some of these.
  • I have a tilted uterus, so honestly, several positions are just not enjoyable for me. We're still figuring out sex, and it's been over five years. Glad to keep exploring what works and what doesn't with my husband ;)
  • Intimacy with my husband is very important to me and helps me connect with him on many levels. I feel positions that make me face away from him are less intimate and impersonal, except for positions that allow for him to keep his face near mine or his body in close contact with me.
  • I don't like when kissing is impossible or difficult and I don't like facing away from each other.
  • I feel we should always be face to face when having sex.
  • Missionary is the only one that I enjoy. Seated facing is pleasant for me but a far shot from missionary. I will tolerate a few other positions for him, but chances are great I am not going to enjoy them.
  • If I were many years younger I would probably have answered quite differently, although I have never liked rear entry positions. Arthritis makes some things difficult now. There is an opportunity for a post in the future! ( geared toward folks 10-20 years older than you)
  • I really love rear entry and it's also my husband favorite position. The very best is when I am kneeling and lying with my upper body flat against the bed. The angel permits my husband’s penis to get very deep in me.
  • Unfortunately my husband isn't in to trying new positions.
  • There are positions we would like to try but we can't make them work - like side by side.
  • I love my husband and love to be adventurous and love making love. Unfortunately I think my husband is asexual. He loves me he is my best friend. We do everything together. Very wonderful man, just not sexual. It is very hard to go without sex. We have made love only twice since august:-(, its October 20th. I ty not to think about it, I try not to think of him sexually. I am very sexually frustrated.
  • Man on top missionary with deep circular motion is the best.
  • We usually engage in three or four positions once PIV starts. His favorites are rear entry so we often end up that way but I love the journey we take getting there.
  • I think it's a separate question whether you enjoy the position vs whether you can orgasm from it (thus really like it).
  • The ones that I chose N/A are ones I have probably never done... I think our bellies get in the way lol
  • I don't like not facing each other. It feels less connected kinda like I'm being used.

 

Men’s Comments:

  • Both of us are a bit overweight, so it makes some positions difficult or uncomfortable (e.g. Sitting face to face or standing face to face is hard, yet we still are able to missionary okay).
  • It's all amazing
  • Height makes it difficult for a lot of the standing positions for us. Except one of my favs which happens to not be included! Missing option, woman standing w/ man standing behind her (Yeah, there was a rear entry that included "standing and bent over" which is probably close enough, so I chose it as a fave). Good shower position when she lifts a leg (be careful!) (Double bonus: pair with Anal in shower for easy cleanup of all that excess lube!). Great position for her to adjust height. Too tall? Spread legs wider. Too short? Wear heels and/or have him spread his legs out wider. Need support? Use the door frame. She can tweak any position or angle by adjusting her hips and legs. It is a great position for any quickie too wherever you might be.
  • Wish my wife would do reverse cow girl more frequently. Feels great, and love the view!
  • Just love it any style
  • Some things are N/A because we don't do them, but I/we have in the past.
  • You can tell by all the N/A's that I am not getting the variety I allude to liking in an earlier question. My wife is very controlling about what is "on the menu" and what is not. It seems she will only allow positions that minimize any increased intimacy, like kissing, eye contact, etc. She also will not allow me to touch her anywhere "uncomfortable" with my hands...
  • I'm open to just about anything and everything. Wish we would mix things up a little more and try new stuff just for fun and novelty. Wife though is pretty much a creature of habit and we for the most part stick with a handful of routine positions. I don't mind all that much because at least we're having good sex which is better than not.
  • Glad you finally got to our favourite.
  • I will have to CAT up the wife tonight now that you've mentioned it! #SuperFunBoinking
  • Her on back on sofa w/legs up, him on knees on floor - good for both!
  • I would LOVE to try most of these.... but she won't do anything other than missionary, and then only because I get done faster. Yes, it's a major marriage issue. Yes, we're in counseling, with little difference thus far. Yes, I'm fight significant depression b/c of our lack of intimacy.
  • My wife has issues with pain during sex, which means she likes to be in control of speed and movement. Her on top is nice, but makes it harder to finish because it’s become "the routine". Variety definitely helps with the amount of time it takes (we don't have much time because of twin toddlers), but the pain is the over-riding issue, which means it's going to take longer. Most times, she uses those two reasons as an excuse not to do anything, but doesn't seem interested in trying to change either issue, so I put on a grave face and take what I can get.
  • You only included vaginal and anal positions, not oral. Those are great too.
  • Position matters to me, but not a whole lot. What matters a lot more to me is connecting emotionally by looking into each other's open eyes during intercourse. And the other thing that increases my enjoyment a great deal is lots of mutual foreplay.
  • My wife has a fabulously round heart-shaped butt, which makes some positions a bit more work than others. Spoons, for example, requires a bit of leverage that hasn't with a partner with a smaller butt. WOT with her facing away is a bit uncomfortable because I'm fairly curved and get very hard, so my inflexibility makes that position not an easy one. Standing can be difficult because she's about seven inches shorter.
  • Position mattered a lot more when we were younger; not so much now that we are older
  • I do not care for any position where I am not facing my beloved. It doesn't seem like we are experiencing it together.
  • After 32 years of marriage, my wife and I both realize that how we make love is not as important as connecting intimately during intercourse. We've decided that face to face is really the only fulfilling positions, even though we've tried many over the years.
  • It's all great! Usually use multiple positions.
  • Yes I like a lot of different positions, I don't get to use them, very often if at all
  • I love sex in any position at any time my wife wants to do it. (Oral, hand, PIV, sitting, standing, kneeling, anything anywhere!) Wife prefers inside, on the bed, I'm more open.
  • DW and I have mainly two positions. CAT and edge of bed with me standing. The edge of bed one involves her using her own fingers. Every so often, we'll change it up or I'll finish from behind once she's done, but those are the main staples in our bed. They both provide adequate stimulation for me, but strong stimulation for her which is what she needs. And for me... I need her to really love it, so I'm good with anything she really loves! :)
  • My wife and I are considerably different heights. Some positions just don't work at all for us.
  • Variety feels great. All of them feel good (some better than others), but some are kinda hard to get into...
  • Let's be honest, I'll take it any way I can get it.
  • We basically do 2 if we have sex Would rather have sex 2x a week than worry about positions at this point.
  • There are several oral sex positions I like as well...especially the 69 position!!!
  • All of the above positions work! Doggy is the choice when it's time to finish.
  • ED and size and her weight make most of these positions way too difficult or impossible or inconvenient. However, even in the beginning of our marriage, position never was important. She doesn't care.
  • Any position where I get a clear view of my wife's butt is great for me!
  • Due to my excess weight most positions are now difficult.
  • Getting older has meant we use fewer positions regularly. We know what works for both of us. Variety is still important, we just choose from our favourites.
  • Several of these my wife and I would love to try, she fantasize about having sex like in the movies (we used to watch porn together during forplay before we got saved). However she has body issues and thinks that we can't do the because she has a belly and big thighs (gastric bypass patient). But in reality I don't try some of them because I don't have the size to accommodate the position and maintain penetration. It has nothing to do with what size she is because I can always put on more muscle.
  • My wife only likes 2 positions so it's pretty limited what we do.
  • I like a lot of the positions listed, but all we do is missionary.
  • Wife needs manual stimulation to O. Usually a vibe so we will use positions that work well for that. If we do missionary we will generally switch to another position so she can O then I'll finish.
  • Gotta love doggy style. It works best for my wife and I. I was surprised not to see the 69 position, which we also LOVE.
  • My wife always wants the standard missionary position and occasionally will get on top of me facing me. She will not do any other positions. For her, sex must be face to face. I would like to try other positions that are easier on me but she is unwilling. I loved doggy style the one and only time in our 25 years of marriage that we had it. She refuses to even consider it.
  • I really enjoy woman lying on side man on knees entering vagina sideways.
  • You should ask. My spouse won't do it.
  • My wife is almost a foot shorter than I am. My height is the main barrier. Since I'm tall, there are a number of positions that make using furniture more difficult.
  • Anything goes for me (husband), but my wife suffers from chronic pain. Sex makes it worse. I have to be flexible to "whatever works" for her. Translation: whatever causes her the LEAST pain. I am blessed by her sacrifice for this part of our lifelong covenant.
  • Only allowed one position with my wife. When I even get anything
  • I love variety. My wife not so much one position is all she likes man on top. Has got boring.
  • Just about any position is wonderful for me. Let's face it any sex is better than no sex. My wife is not at all adventurous and so variety is limited.
  • 69
  • It was nice to remember those times, but she just isn't interested in much anymore. Would give anything for her to talk about it. Don't know what to do...
  • I would like more variety in our positions but my wife will not do anything but missionary anymore.

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