Setting the Scene
SETTING THE SCENE
Lori Byerly
Making love with your spouse should be a joyous, exciting time. Here are some things to consider in making your private time more comfortable and enjoyable.
Lori Byerly
Making love with your spouse should be a joyous, exciting time. Here are some things to consider in making your private time more comfortable and enjoyable.
- Privacy
- Get a lock for your bedroom door or choose places where you will be alone with no chance of people wandering in.
- Consider the noise factor. Insulation in walls, sound-absorbing carpets and drapes, cover music or taking the farthest bedroom in the house can help keep your sexuality private.
- It's also a good idea to get a locked box or drawer for bedroom items like birth control, lubricant, sex manuals, etc..
- Comfort
- A comfortable bed is a good piece of furniture to invest in. Not only will it make lovemaking more comfortable, but it will also help you get a good night's sleep.
- Get some soft pillows for tucking here and there.
- Consider the temperature of the room. I'm sure many of you can identify with the temperature issue (Paul calls me Nanook of the North). Work to find a balance between goose bumps and heat stroke. [Note to men from Paul - being too hot will not keep you from enjoying sex the way being too cold will for her!]
- Sight
- Make your bedroom a neat and attractive getaway place just for the two of you.
- Buy a dimmer switch and install it on your bedside lamp for playing with light levels.
- Try different-colored light bulbs (soft pink is nice).
- Candles are a nice lighting option (be sure and put them where they can't be knocked over).
- Sound
- If you like music, pick something that you feel will enhance your lovemaking time and put it on repeat at a comfortable volume (most people prefer instrumental music, as words can be distracting).
- There are also non-music sound tapes and CD's available (waterfalls, crickets, that sort of thing).
- Smell
- Be sure to bathe often enough to be pleasing to your spouse (deodorant is an optional preference).
- Perfumes and scented powders are nice (don't use too much). As an alternative, you could scent your sheets lightly instead.
- Touch
- Be sure to clip or file nails (both fingers and toes!).
- Use lotion for soft skin.
- Have soft clean sheets.
- Store lubricants and massage lotion nearby.
- Taste
- Brush your teeth (floss and mouthwash optional).
- Some folk like flavored items in the bedroom (food, flavored lotions and powders).
- Afterglow
- Have some small towels handy for cleanup.
- Make sure that lighting and sound can be turned off from the bed.
